Are you seeking a high level soul mate?
As a true Twin Flame, and someone who has been on this Twin Flame path for over a decade now, it frustrates me no end, to read social media comments about so many Divine Feminine (DF) Twin Flames who are desiring to “give up” on their Twin Flame partner, usually the Divine Masculine (DM). And to ‘find’ a high level soulmate instead!
To put it very bluntly: Stop it!
If you are believing that a high level Soul Mate will FIX your life, MAKE you happy, and get you OFF this Twin Flame ‘roller coaster’. They you definitely haven’t understood ‘life’, or happiness….and you definitely don’t under what being a Twin Flame is about either.
Let’s talk about ‘Life’ and happiness, first… (then I’ll circle back to the higher level soul mate vs Twin Flame debate, later in this post.)
Happiness isn’t a destination or a goal for you to achieve
Growing up as a human inside Earth’s Matrix, you will have been ‘taught’ that happiness is a ‘destination’. Something that you ACHIEVE or get to, when you’ve done ‘XYZ’ (some kind of action or goal).
This becomes a perpetual ‘if-then’ loop.
For example:
- If you go to school and get good grades, then you will get a good job.
- When you get a good job, you can get good money, and then you can buy a house.
- If you get a nice man/woman, then you can get married, etc, etc.
I’m sure you’ve heard these phrases (societal programming) many times over. All of it planned by society to direct our lives in a certain manner. For us to become good ‘workers’ in the systems, by leveraging your current ‘unhappiness’ to keep you constantly purchasing goods and services (aka wanting more/doing more…) to keep growing our countries’ economies.
But happiness truly isn’t a ‘end-goal’ destination. It doesn’t need to be ‘hard won’, or involve ‘sacrifices’ in order to get it right.
Happiness is an internal state of BEING
Happiness is our innate ‘right’ and one of our essential states of ‘BEING”… (notice I didn’t say DOING!).
Happiness is a feeling that bubbles up inside us. It can happen anytime, and in a number of situations.
True Happiness can be found in the simplest of things – a butterfly that flitters near our face, a droplet of water on a leaf that radiates all the colours of the rainbow. The warm feeling the sun on your face, or the breeze on your skin.
If you want, you can even feel happy standing waiting in a 2-hour immigration queue in a major airport. Watching in ‘awe’ and wonder at the huge diversity and beauty of our world’s inhabitants, and seeing with so much joy, how all your own characteristics, hopes, and fears are all reflected in others.
How can we hear the phrase, ‘Mummy, are we there yet”, and not reflect back to our own youthful impatience in our own childhood. Along with experiencing huge empathy and compassion for the child who doesn’t understand the reason for such long queues.
The truth about happiness is that happinesses only exists in the present moment…. And it comes from within.
Deciding to be happy (regardless of your situation) is an internal choice.
There is no absolute ‘good’ and ‘bad’ in this world, it is all situational. It is all relative to your preferences and what ‘seems’ appropriate to your situation.
Some things are more ‘aligned’ to our vibration and make us feel better. Whilst those less aligned to our vibration, make us feel worse.
In any given present moment, we can CHOOSE to be happy, and feel happiness. We are each individually deciding (in every moment) what makes us happy, and what does not.
Having expectations (including those you have of your Twin Flame) blocks happiness
Other humans can’t make you happy (nor, should you expect them too…!)
Only you can make yourself happy, and it is a lot easier when you don’t have huge number of expectations or rules, as to how life MUST happen to you. How things NEED to be, and/or how others (ie. your Twin Flame) SHOULD / NEED to behave.
Because all these ‘rules’ and ‘expectations’ or ‘requirements’, just create additional ‘barriers’ to your happiness, and make it so much more difficult to ‘achieve’.
(Did you notice I used the word ‘achieve’ here, like happiness is something we need to work for again???)
This is because WHEN you erect these ‘external conditions’ around what ‘makes’ you happy, you fall back into the ‘3D Matrix’ belief, that you can only be happy if ‘xyz’ happens.
- Ie. if your romantic partner (Twin Flame or high level soulmate) treat you in a certain way.
- Or, if you ‘must’ get a job promotion or more money, etc.
These barriers (or requirements) that you put up, are about “control”, and the (probably ‘unconscious’) belief that you NEED to ‘control’ the situation, to ensure your happiness.
This is what creates silly thoughts, such as:
Just ‘go out and find a high-level soul mate’, INSTEAD of lovingly holding space for your Twin Flame….. all because your Twin Flame (under Divine Guidance), isn’t following along with your attempts to control him/her.
And, I’m coming to more about Twin Flames vs high level soulmate, in a moment…..
Trying to control ‘external events’ doesn’t make you happy. Deciding to BE happy, does.
The only control we can have over our happiness, is to know it comes from us DECIDING to be happy in the current moment.
Yes, it may often come from an external trigger. When in a relationship, this could be:
- a kiss on the cheek,
- surprise bunch of flowers,
- a thoughtfully prepared dinner,
- a well-anticipated night out, or
- simply a warm hand seeking out and enveloping one of yours.
But WE are the ones who DECIDE to be happy (rather than miserable), in our current situation.
Our external situation might influence our feeling and therefore our states, but they DON’T create them.
WE DO, when we decide to be happy in the current moment or not.
What “desiring” a Higher Level Soul Mate vs Twin Flame means for your Twin Flame Journey
Now, circling back to Twin Flames again, and more specifically the desire for a high-level soulmate.
To have this desire some thought processes must be going on!
Here are some thoughts (or belief systems) listed below, that you might be thinking:
- Your Twin Flame isn’t awakened, and won’t awaken.
- That your Twin Flame can’t meet your ‘needs’, as your Twin Flame isn’t showing up in the way you want.
- The ‘gap’ between what you want, and what is currently true in your life, is widening.
(This ‘experience gap’ is something I talk about in my ‘Twin Flames: You aren’t Crazy: Support for your Mental Health’ Course.)
- You perceive your Twin Flame is at fault (not you). That, they aren’t doing the ‘work’, or that they will never change.
- You are prioritising the sexual or romantic parts of a relationship with your Twin Flame, over the far more important growth and a spiritual awakening.
- You are ignoring the fact, that if a restrictive ‘condition’ exists in your Twin Flame relationship (ie. a karmic or some kind of addiction), that it is there for a reason, and needs to be worked though, not ignored or dismissed.
Be careful who you get Twin Flame advice and guidance from
If you do have any of the above ‘incorrect’ thoughts or beliefs. Please STOP and double-check your thinking.
Do you realise how ‘faulty’ and EGOTISTICAL many of those beliefs are?
If you are constantly hearing advice that reinforces those kind of beliefs, then you probably getting your advice from non-Twin Flames.
Do be very careful out there.
There are many people (usually spiritual females), who are trying to market ‘spiritual services’ into the Twin flame community. But, they aren’t truly Twin Flame’s themselves, and so are saying all the wrong things regarding your Divine Masculines.
You can identify these false ‘teachers’ when they say things like:
- ‘Detox’ from your Twin Flame’s energy.
- Step into you Feminine empowered-ness or Goddess energy,
- You are a Queen and deserve better.
- That the Divine Masculine (DM) never wakes up,
- That you have no Twin.
- It is all about the Feminine,
- To ignore your physical Twin Flame, etc.
- And that of course, you can/should pick a high level soul mate instead, and abandon your TF.
All of these above suggestions are all garbage!
They are definitely not, soul-led guidance coming from a true Twin Flame!
Nor do they show proper understanding the Twin Flame Journey, and the Mission that you and your Twin Flame are here to achieve.
Can you also see too, that each of those above statements/beliefs, come from a strong position of EGO, and are not, based in love and/or compassion?
Stop listening to old ‘matrix’ and ‘ego-laden’ rhetoric, and start to realise your Soul truth.
Be open to learning and experiencing something that you never have before. That is what this Twin Flame Journey, and the wonderous experience of Unconditional Love is all about!
YOUR Twin Flame journey is exquisitely planned and executed
You and your Twin Flame aren’t random.
You have both had almost parallel lives, one from a masculine and one from a feminine perspective (Note: not meaning male and female, here), so you can see and understand issues from all perspectives.
This joint understanding, and your combined skills are what you need for your mission together, and that is why IN THIS LIFE-TIME you both have incarnated, here on Earth. (Whereas, in some other lifetimes, one TF would incarnate, and the other not, guiding from the other side.)
Travelling the TF journey takes YEARS and DECADES even.
A Twin Flame Love
After the Twin Flame Activation Stage when you recognise each other, so much healing, ancestral and energetic works needs to be done.
The work load is divided between each Twin Flame (within a Twin Flame pair).
- One travels the journey consciously (ie. aware of Twin Flames, but still has lots of 3D programs and beliefs to clear). This Twin Flame is usually the ‘Spiritual Twin’ (often the Divine Feminine).
- The other Twin is usually the ‘runner’ or Divine masculine, unaware mentally/consciously of the Twin Flame connection, and has the role of deeply grounding in the 3D matrix, to allow their DF Twin Flame to rise.
Obtaining Twin Flame Higher Vibration
The Divine Feminine, once (eventually) stable in Inner Union, and grounded in both 5D energies (and 3D energies), then needs to steadfastly ‘hold the light’ for their Divine Masculine, which assists them to move back up into the 5D levels, and return to them.
This delay or gap between the DF and DM in conscious awareness of the journey, and any ‘apparent’ /contradictory behaviours is deliberate.
It isn’t a ‘fault’ on the part of the DM, or them ‘not doing’ their work. It is just a simply and integral part of the journey.
⭐The DM has held space for the Divine Feminine for years (so they could do their work), and it is time for the Divine Feminine to return the favour. ⭐
(You know DF’s, how you’ve desperately been wanting to help your DM during this WHOLE journey. Well NOWs the time, towards the end. Not at the beginning! Show your light (and only your light) to them, so they can find their way ‘HOME’.)
If you drill out and see the big picture, you will realise that our entire Twin Flame Journey is simply is training for our Twin Flame mission roles ahead. Any DF who doesn’t have the compassion or willingness to be patient and hold space for her ‘beloved’ Divine Masculine (DM), clearly isn’t embodying unconditional love.
Nor, yet ready and able to do the same for any either person that we, as Twin Flames, are here to help either!
If you don’t FINISH the TF Journey, then you can’t DO your Twin Flame Mission, either.
Any Divine Feminine (DF) Twin Flame that doesn’t want to longingly hold space for their Divine Masculine (DM) Twin Flame, and instead wants to impatiently find a high-level soul mate, is RUNNING. And also, EGOtistically self-abandoning both herself/himself and your Twin Flame.
It is also delaying your Twin Flame Journey, and the roles your Soul(s) came her to play (right here, right now) in this crucial time of planetary awakening.
Do your work Twin Flame.
Don’t run.
Don’t disrespect your Twin Flame.
You mirror each other, remember, and you will just receive that behaviour back.
Simply be YOU. Your ‘true’ YOU.
Emanate only divine, unconditional love, and your physical TF (who is you in another body) will do the same.
Twin Flame or High Level Soul Mate? Don’t be tricked by the idea of an ‘easy way out’
What all the false Twin Flame teachers and coaches, have got SO WRONG, is the belief that you can ‘ditch your Twin Flame’, and simply and easily attract, manifest, or chose to meet a high-level soul mate.
You can’t.
Your Twin Fame Journey is highly guided and divinely orchestrated, whether you are aware of it, or even tuned into this guidance or not.
Your whole purpose on being on Earth is this lifetime, is to be here and do something special WITH your Twin Flame.
A high-level soul mate can only appear in your life for growth or support. (Not, the overly romantic fairy-tale desire that you might wish).
Even if it does happen, it will only be for a short time or a season.
They are not to replace your Twin Flame (simply not possible), but you help you on your Twin Flame path (growing and evolving) through difficulties, when the Twin Flame can’t physically be there due to prior commitments, that will benefit you both.
Twin Flame Soulmate difference
In all my years as a Twin Flame, I’ve only seen four main reasons as to why a Divine Feminine would be ‘paired’ with a soul mate life partner:
- Timing: When a Twin Flame meets their Twin Flame many decades before they are to be ‘activiated’ on their Twin Flame Journey. (ie childhood, teens, or early twenties).
- Prior Contracts/Commitments: Some life contracts may temporarily have a ‘higher priority’. For example, when a female Twin Flame has just given birth to a child (not her Twin Flames), that child needs to be a priority for 15-18 years or so.
- Growth/Starting the Mission: You might have a high level soul mate come into help you develop your spiritual gifts, or as a short-term business partner to work on your mission, which your Twin Flame can join you in later.
- Personal Support: If part of your Twin Flame Journey involves facing a long illness, or major personal setbacks, a higher level soul mate may come in to help you persevere past these challenges. This helps balance you in situations where you could get caught in despair – bringing down your light.
As you can see, all of these above situations are divinely guided.
They are not egotistical choices, which I see so many Divine Feminines try to make from a ‘wounded’ place.
Which connection is stronger Twin Flame or Soulmate?
So please Divine Feminine, or whoever is wanting to ‘call in’ or manifest a high-level soul mate. Those of you who have the ‘faulty’ belief that their Twin Flame won’t wake up; isn’t behaving right; or not treating them as a ‘Queen’. ……
Please ‘wake’ up to your own behaviour here.
Wanting a High-level soul mate, and giving up on your Twin Flame is spiritual by-passing.
You don’t want to do the work, so you cut and run.
Realise that it is just your EGO wants to jump of the path, a path your Soul and our world desperately need you on.
Remember that Your Twin Flame Connection is far, far stronger, than any Soulmate connection could be, and always will be.
Your Twin Flame is YOU (in another human body).
Take a deep breath and KNOW.
KNOW that you are made of stronger stuff, and better stuff, and you can do this.
But you need to stay ‘aware’, open, communicative, and receptive.
Once you’ve done the work and got to inner union, YOU ARE the ‘guiding LIGHT’ that your Divine Masculine needs, to also find his light, and return home to you.
Don’t:
- Resist
- Avoid
- Blame
- Have expectations
- Try to control your Twin Flame Journey, or
- Actively seek out a high level Soul Mate….!.
Instead, just surrender…..
If you are a true Twin Flame, you will know and deeply understand why this is important.
If you don’t know why, then you had better read my post on spiritual ego. (Stuck in 4D anyone..?)
Your Twin Flame’s behaviour is your combined soul mirroring stuff to you. Do your Twin Flame work, and it will stop. When you are no long needing to heal these areas, your Twin Flame will no longer need to point them out to you.
The Twin Flame journey requires us to be compassionate and act in unconditional love from the heart. Are you doing this? Or are you still stuck in EGO?
What a great question to ask?
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Twin Flame Higher Frequency
Do you want some help uplifting your frequency back to Twin Flame Bubble Love stage levels, so it is easier to stay in Unconditional Love, and act towards your Twin Flame in unconditional love?
My self-study online course, “How to create an Energetic Twin Flame Love Box, and why you need one”, can help you with this.
In it (as your Twin Flame Coach), I share six fun-filled, simple (yet powerful), energetic exercises, that you can do during your day, or as/when needed. Valuable energy changes that I’ve been teaching my coaching students, to help them avoid blowing up their Twin Flame Journey, when their EGO gets triggered by the various stages of the Twin Flame experience.
Do you want to stay down in the dumps, or chose the ‘love vibration?. I choose LOVE (via these exercises) every single time!
If you want to get out of ‘3D EGOtistical’ version of you; leave your ‘4D Spiritual Ego version’ of you behind; and fully step into the ‘5D Unconditional Love’ version of you (by learning how to staying in Twin Flame Higher Frequency longer), my course can really help you.
(BTW, In it, I also share a bit more of my Twin Flame story for those who are interested – 5 hrs of video lessons! 😊💖🔥🔥)
You can find out more about the course in this link.
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Hang in there! You CAN do this!
Much love,
Kristina
PS. Need help on your Journey? Confused about High Level Soul Mates? Maybe my Question and Answer service can help?. (I’ll answer any Twin Flame questions you have within 12 – 48 hours!)
