Today, I want to talk about something a little different. To talk not so much about the Twin Flame Journey, but those who you ‘choose” to help you, on this path.
The Twin Flame coaches.
The Twin Flame Teachers.
Some of which are TRUE Twin Flames (who have found their Twin Flame). But many are not!
Discernment is key.
Is their view of the TF Journey – tinted?
Everyone sees the world through our own unique ‘lens’.
‘Glasses’, (if you will), that will ‘tint’, or you could even say ‘taint’ your viewpoint, and your thoughts towards the Twin Flame Journey, and other Twin Flames. Including your own TF.
I understand how this happens.
Most of the people who sharing Twin Flame content out there, usually do so looong before their full Twin Flame Journey is complete. Which means they ‘don’t yet know’, ‘what they don’t yet know’, and that is OK, and even good! (I myself too, started off in this boat, creating my website in 2018, back when I was in the ‘Twin Flame Separation Stage’.)
‘It is good’, because what the saying, ‘Time heals all wounds’, says, is true. And those who are currently still deep into Twin Flame pain, are well-equipped to help reach those experiencing similar issues.
Are they really on a Twin Flame Journey, or with a catalyst or false twin flame?
The problems come however, when the Twin Flame coach or teacher doesn’t realise that their version of the world isn’t “100% true”, but is somewhat ‘tainted’ by the bias of their ‘tinted’ lenses, instead.
….Or, the worst of all, when they don’t realise that they are actually providing false and incorrect information. Because, they are only dealing with a ‘False Twin Flame’, yet, thinking it was their True Twin Flame all along.
Discernment is key!
(Note: I’m not throwing ‘shade/shame’ on these people. Hell, we all make mistakes. Initial confusion too, over who is your Twin Flame, is something we call face.)
But, I do want to flag with you the importance of looking for biases in people’s content.
Examples of Negative Twin Flame Biases
Whether you realise it or not, the language that one uses, tends to give away our emotional states and mental biases. So, looking at how someone else communicates (and you too), can help you tell a lot about another person, and where they are both vibrationally and consciously, on this Twin Flame Journey.
- Are they vibrating from a position of love, and unity consciousness? [IDEAL}
- Or are they still viewing and reacting to the world, from a separation and fear-based bias? {NOT SO IDEAL}
What does their words, and online content, tell about them?
Negative Twin Flame Biases look like:
- Are they still 100% treating their Twin Flame Connection, as only a 3D relationship, and expecting (or demanding) that their Twin Flame turn up in a certain way, so ‘their needs’ can be met? (ie. marriage, children, impossibility short timeframes, and requiring a huge apology from their Twin Flame?)
- Using Mind-based terminology to describe their Twin Flame, such as ‘Anxious Avoidant’?
(Totally forgetting that the energies of the Twin Flame connection have given the Divine Feminine (DF) and Divine Masculine (DM) into different roles. Meaning, that how your Twin Flame “acts” is not always WHO they are, but instead simply something they are temporarily ‘doing’ or ‘saying’ to you, as your Twin Flame Mirror.) - Showing ongoing anger, upset, or impatience at the Divine Masculine for not yet being awake, or not yet “choosing them” – * This is a big one*. (Hello? How ‘awake’ are they actually themselves? Don’t they realise, that in not choosing to ‘hold space’ for the ‘other’ version of you, there is also some level of ‘self-abandonment’, or lack of ‘self-love’?)
- Preferring to be with a ‘high-level soul mate’ themselves, rather than patiently holding space for their Twin Flame. (They’ve missed the point that the Twin Flame Journey flows on ‘soul-time’ or ‘divine timing’, and not human biological reproduction timeframes. Which might show they are still deeply ‘stuck’ in 3D programming too. It is far more common for Twin Flames to only come together in Union, later in life, long after families have been raised. In many cases, this is often why the female is the elder Twin too. As a Twin Flames, your life together after you’ve both awakened is NOT going to follow the ‘normal’ ‘programmed’ 3D relationship pathways – you are here to create new ‘relationship’ templates instead).
- Speaking in a way that indicates or suggests, energetic barriers or boundaries against their TF. For example:
- Talking about their Twin Flame as: “THEY” didn’t ‘choose’ me” – (This means they are still in a ‘blaming their TF mindset’, rather than understanding what had to happen, happened for the TF Journey sake), or
- Or openly stating, that when they think of their Twin Flame, that they ‘energetically wave BYE BYE’ – (This is being dismissive and uncaring).
- Assuming that any physical ‘barriers’ between you and your Twin Flame (i.e. karmics, existing family/commitments etc) are ‘PROOF’ that you aren’t ‘meant’ to be together in this life time, rather than working through them. (No, that is just ‘spiritual bypassing’. An excuse for the Twin Flame ‘teacher/coach’ to not do their work.)
As you read the above points, I’m hoping that you can some of negative Twin Flame biases, people are holding, that affect their beliefs about Twin Flames.
What is Discernment and why is it important?
The ability to see this is called ‘discernment’.
“Discernment is the mental ability to perceive, understand, and judge clearly. It goes beyond seeing things at face value, allowing you to distinguish subtle details, separate truth from falsehood, and make wise, informed decisions in complex situations.”
With all the confusion around how the Twin Flame Journey works, discernment is important to ensure you are following ‘your truths’, and not someone else’s beliefs.
When picking a Twin Flame Teacher to follow, or a Twin Flame Coach to hire, it is important that you can readily identify and are consciously aware of any negative Twin Flame Biases that they might still be ‘mentally’ carrying.
All of the previously mentioned examples of Negative Twin Flame ‘belief’ biases will negatively affect their own TF journey…. and can ‘pollute’ or ‘corrupt’ yours too, if you work with them, without using discernment.
As Twin Flames, we already have so many “3D Mind Viruses’ running in our heads that require releasing. We really don’t need to pick up other infectious and incorrect ‘Mind Viruses’ too.
So, be aware of this.
As I always say in my coaching courses. If you deal with other Twin Flames, and I think you always should (as only TFs can understand the energy correctly), make sure you find a ‘happy’ one.
Signs of a healed and loving Twin Flame Coach/Teacher?
Today, we’ve had a look at some of the ‘red flags’ that indicate that someone Twin Flame Coaches orTeachers, may not be what they seem. When they are not in a healed or loving place, they will often carry huge biases in how they view their own Twin Flame, and therefore the entire Twin Flame Journey.
What then, are more ‘ideal’ characteristics that to look for, when picking a Twin Flame teacher or coach?
- Someone who has embraced the Twin Flame Journey, has done the ‘Twin Flame Work’ to embody their Soul in 3D, and always, always, always teaches from ‘LOVE’.
- Someone who ALWAYS holds their own Twin Flame in love, respect, and high regards.
- Someone who is upbeat and positive about the Twin Flame Journey, and your possibility of reaching Physical Union with your Twin Flame.
- Someone who knows 100% they have found with their TRUE Twin Flame (and are not sharing incorrect information, as they ‘confused’ by a False Twin Flame).
- They’ve been able to balance their own ‘desire for privacy’, with sharing enough of their Twin Flame story, so that you can confirm they are a TRUE Twin Flame.
- There is NO (or very little) Ego, in what they say. They don’t claim to ‘be the best’; the ‘only one’; or trying to make themselves seem overly important. They know their way isn’t the only way, but they can and do provide valuable grounded truth, gained via their personal experience & their Soul’s intuitive insights.
- Their website or blog (if they have one) shows long-term consistency in how they talk about, treat, and appreciate their Twin Flame. Ie. No criticism or venting, as that shows a ‘still wounded human’ rather than an embodied Soul presence.
- In their courses / coaching offerings, and in any other information they provide, they are very upfront about what is included, and the value that it will provide for you as a Twin Flame. They respect you and your journey enough, to not expect you to purchase things from them without you being upfront. They won’t sell you, what is in essence, a non-refundable ‘black box’.
- They are a genuinely upbeat and positive person, grounded in reality. Yes, they understand the ‘romance’ of Twin Flames, and believe in it. But they also understand, and can easily explain the Bigger Soul picture of Twin Flames, too.
(Because this is where a Twin Flame coach can be the most valuable – helping us to see the Twin Flame Journey in a way (BIG PICTURE) we couldn’t prior. Something, that both helps us to evolve, and our Twin Flame Journey to progress at the same time, a big Win / Win.) 🙂
Discernment is a skill Twin Flames’ need to learn and practise
Discernment is something that develops, and grows stronger as you use it on your Twin Flame Journey.
Listening to, and being aware of, the subtle ‘YES’ and subtle ‘NO’s.
Realizing that sometimes you even need to make mistakes, to discover what following a ‘NO’ feels like.
Understand too, that the Universe also has your back. Often external signs might even pop up too, clearly indicating to you that what you are listening to, is NOT correct for you.
Personally had physical snakes turn up in my garden, or cockroaches play ‘hide and seek’ in my kitchen, when accidentally listening too, and being ‘deceived’ by others Twin Flame content that wasn’t correct for me.
So please, stay ‘awake’, ‘aware’ and always pay attention!
Twin Flames are very protected on this journey. Our Mission is important. But it is a whole lot easier to stay protected when we pay attention to, and listen to the signs.
A TF journey of one of many steps towards enlightenment.
Oh, my goodness, this Twin Flame journey makes me smile.
So much growth… and tears
…but I would never undo it all.
I hope this post, has been helpful to you today, as I’ve shared some ‘red flags’, to be aware of as you transverse your Twin Flame journey.
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