Should you tell your Divine Masculine you are Twin Flames

Q. ‘Should you tell your Divine Masculine DM you are Twin Flames? Or, not?’

This is a question I see often from Divine Feminine Twin Flames in Twin Flame groups, and on YouTube.

It was also a Twin Flame question I myself had struggled with for many months, early on in my own Twin Flame Journey.

Should I tell my Divine Masculine (DM)Twin Flame that we are Twin Flames? I really didn’t know, but the desire to do so was very strong.

Do I recommend telling your DM Twin Flame about your Connection?

As a fellow Twin Flame, and a Twin Flame Coach, my best answer the question – ‘Should you tell your DM you are Twin Flames, or not’, is to really say it ‘depends’.

YES, as frustrating as this answer is, like everything in life, it is very situational.

For example:

If you have just discovered you are Dying -> Definitely YES (sorry to be so morbid).
But if you only just met your Twin Flame yesterday -> probably NOT.

When it might be a good idea to tell your Divine Masculine

There are certain situations that your Divine Masculine might be undergoing or experiencing, where knowing that they share a special, spiritual, Twin Flame Love Connection with you, might help them.

I’ve listed 3 of these fairly DM common scenarios below:

Your DM’s Situation	Would I recommended telling your DM Twin Flame
Your DM Twin Flame can’t work out what your connection is, and it is worrying and affecting their mental health.	Yes. If done carefully. It might help. But make sure you don’t have any expectations that they should ‘act’ or ‘be’ differently as a result. (Your DM has enough to deal with at this time)
Your DM Twin Flame feels guilty for wanting to spend time with you because they are in a committed relationship, with someone else.	If you genuinely want to help them stop feeling guilty, then maybe Yes. Helping them to see you have an energetic and soul-based connection, can help them cognitively ‘reconcile’ why they have feelings for you, after already committing to another. (ie. It isn’t a character flaw in them, but a divinely gifted situation instead) (Note: If, however, you deliberately want them to leave the other partner, and are coming at this from a manipulative way or caustic/ confrontational way … ie. telling your DM “you should be with me, instead”. Then NO.)
Your DM may not be understanding why their life is falling apart, they are having dark nights of the soul (DNoS), and can’t stop thinking about you.	YES, possibly. But it might be easier to just start with telling them they are undergoing a Spiritual Awakening first, and letting them learn and get used to this first. The additional ‘layer’ of information about your TF connection can be added at a later time, rather than loading them up with everything at once. The delay might be valuable or important, because springing on them that they are a Twin Flame and MEANT to be with you, could cause them to run. Especially if their life is already falling apart and they don’t have the capacity to deal with anything else extra at this time.

Did you see the common theme in all the above scenarios?

They all revolve around situations where your Twin Flame is struggling mentally to understand your connection, and resulting efforts of being on a Twin Flame Journey.

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Divine Feminine aren’t the only ones who often feel that they are going crazy. Our DMs often do too, and whilst at a soul-level they agreed to do this journey ‘blind’ (ie without the knowledge that they are a Twin Flame, so their DF could have the ‘knowing’), it doesn’t make it any easier for them on this path.

So, dropping the occasional ‘hints’ about the special nature of your connection MAY help. But since everything we do carries an ‘energy signature’, double-checking first that your underlying motivation for telling your DM you are Twin Flame is “good“ one (and not self-motivated), is really pretty important.

The DFs Motivation for telling their Divine Masculine matters

When dealing with question about “whether or not to tell your DM Twin Flame that you are Twin Flames”, your motivations and reasons for telling them really matters.

It can be so easy for Divine Feminine TFs to try and ‘justify’ telling your Twin Flame under the banner of “I want to help my Twin Flame”. But you need to be aware of ANY understandable, yet often ulterior motives of wanting you DM to ‘wake up’.

You know the saying, ‘You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make them drink’. Well, your Twin Flame won’t ‘wake up’ until it is time for them to do so, no matter how much you try.

Telling your DM that you are Twin Flames doesn’t solve things. It can often make them more complicated. Also, please understand, that telling your DM Twin Flame that you are Twin Flames is NOT a short cut to reaching Twin Flame Union.

WHY do you want to tell you Twin Flame? For your benefit or theirs?

When deciding whether or not to tell your Twin Flame, you ultimately need to listen to your own internal guidance. (A ‘tell him’, ‘tell him’ voice that doesn’t go away would be nice, but we don’t all get that.)

You also need to be ‘awake’ enough and ‘conscious’ enough of yourself, to recognise and separate out YOUR underlying reason (YOUR WHY) for wanting to tell them.

Is it for a loving reason, to help your DM Twin Flame understand the situation that they find themselves in? Or is it for a more manipulative or personal benefit reason, to change what is happening and move it closer to what you want?

As the DF, you need to temporarily put aside your OWN wants and desires, and think about whether or not it really is in the best interest of your DM Twin Flame to “intellectually” know about your Twin Flame connection.

Because like you, once they ‘know’ something they can’t really ‘unknow’ it, and it will change things in your connection forever!

Are you expecting that telling your Twin Flame will change things in your connection, and what are your expectations around that?

Your Expectations repel your Twin Flame

If you try too hard to get someone else to do something, it often will repel them, especially if you are talking about your Twin Flame. Expectations repel.

On this journey, you and your Twin Flame are learning to step into, and be ‘Your Authentic Soul Self’. And, expectations by ANYONE (even your Twin Flame – the other part of yourself), will encourage them to run.

No-one wants to be put in a box, or controlled. So, double-check your reasons for wanting to tell to tell him or her about being Twin Flames.

Related -> Twin Flame Expectations: Are your relationship expectations energetically repelling your Twin Flame?

A quick ‘Should you tell your DM you are Twin Flame’ Test

A simple way to test if you have any expectations is to use a little a ‘mental’ role-play to IMAGINE you and your Twin Flame talking together in your mind, during which time you imagine telling your Divine Masculine that you are Twin Flames.

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How would you explain that you are Twin Flames to your Divine Masculine? What would you say?

What are you expecting to hear back in return?

Is it something like?

Your Twin Flame shares a message of undying love?
Your Twin Flame proposes marriage?
Your Twin Flame decides to leave a person/existing partner?
Your Twin Flame tells you: ‘I Love You’

Keep on imagining how you would feel if your DM DIDN’T say any of the above, and said something different instead.

Such as:

You are wrong!
You are crazy!
I have no idea what you are talking about
Twin Flames aren’t real
Stay away from me
I don’t want to see you ever again

How would you feel, if one of the last 6 statements, is what you heard from your DM Twin Flame?

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Putting all butterflies and rose aside. You need to know that telling your DM you are Twin Flames WILL instantly change your current interactions with them, and not necessarily in the way you had hoped.

Are you strong enough to deal with a negative response from your DM? Can you deal with that change and potential loss right now?

Don’t take your Divine Masculine Twin Flame’s response personally

This next piece of advice is for those of you who have already told your Twin Flame, or you have decided that you are going to.

If you have already personally told your DM in real-life, and if your DM did response a little ‘negatively’ or not how you hoped. Remember that Twin Flames mirror each other, and so be careful not to take everything they said personally, or at ‘exact’ face value.

Understand that your Divine Masculine isn’t being deliberately uncaringly or harsh as this stage. But they don’t know what they don’t know, and we can’t expect them to totally get the Twin Flame concept, and completely understand it instantly anyway.

Realise too, that if you tell your DM Twin Flame, that your DM might need to retreat to their DM equivalent of a ‘man cave’ (and process this knowledge) for a while…. or even a year or more.

Also, if their ego is particularly strong, your Divine Masculine might even need to try to ‘prove’ you are wrong in your beliefs/knowing about the connection (because they are not yet ready to believe it), which could take a while. (It might also involve dating lots of other people, if they to try and prove to themselves that you aren’t the ONE…. Until that no longer works any more and they can no longer deny their truth).

So, before you try and tell your Twin Flame, under the guise or belief that you will make their life better, please think long and hard.

Did I tell my Twin Flame?

Q. Did I tell my Twin Flame?

Yes, I did (Even though I thought he already know, and it would just be a confirmation of something he already knew).

Q. How did it go?

Not well. And, by that I mean, NOT as how I had hoped (Aw… those hidden expectations that I didn’t realise I had, until they didn’t eventuate).

When I told my Twin Flame, he ran.

(Which in hindsight though, makes total sense, as I hadn’t even started my Twin Flame work and healing yet.) I also heard the word ‘he is running’, half-an hour before I actually told him we are Twins. So, I felt I had to tell him now, to give him the clue, before any chance was lost.

Q. Given a chance to re-do things, would I still tell him?

Yes, but I would do it differently.

My Divine Masculine Twin Flame is the Runner

Why would I still tell my Divine Masculine Twin Flame when it made him run?

Firstly, I was guided to tell him. So, I did, at the first opportunity that opened up for me to tell him – which I did. (I had to be patient though; I’d been looking for an appropriate time/ chance for about 6 months.)
Secondly, because deep down I knew that that little bit of information that we were each other’s Twin Flames, even though it was going to separate us, was a key or clue I could drop. Something that would to help him understand the Twin Journey, and ultimately return to me, as our lives were definitely pulling us apart at the time.

What should you do? Do you tell your DM?

What are my thoughts about your situation (which I know nothing about)?

Well, ultimately you need to trust your own gut or intuition, with regards to whether or not to tell your Twin Flame.

In all likelihood it won’t turn out like you planned. But that doesn’t mean it is a bad thing.

It could be just what your DM needs.

“An excuse to run, or the key that unlocks all understanding.”

Just remember that your Soul and the Universe, knows what is best for you (both) at any given time, and it may not match what your logical mind thinks.

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Otherwise….

You’ve got this! 💞

Much love,

Kristina.

PS, If the mental health challenges or worries that you are crazy that I’m mentioned in this post are resonating with you. Don’t fear, you aren’t alone. And you haven’t gone crazy either.

If you would like some logical explanations for what is happening, for either your own benefit or to perhaps explain things to your DM Twin Flame, have a look at my ‘Twin Flames You aren’t crazy: Support for your Mental Health’ self-study course.

In it, I talk about:

- - - - the Twin Flame Spiritual Awaking side of the Twin Flame Journey,
        
        Twin Flame Mirroring, and
        
        the three different versions of your Twin Flame who are all presenting information to you, and confusing the hell out of you.

(Realise what each of the three versions of your Twin Flame are, and this journey gets simpler.)

You are not alone, or crazy, and this information helps.

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