Did you realise that TF mirroring doesn’t just happen with your Twin Flame? (Well, not the Twin Flame, bit, but the mirroring bit.)
The Mirroring bit, that our Twin Flame was supposed to show us, can come via other people when the Twin Flame isn’t around.
Why is this?
Well, the mirroring we get as a Twin Flame from our Twin Flame on this journey, is an important navigation tool on our life. It helps us see what we need to work on, that dreaded ‘Twin Flame Work’, as part of our Twin Flame Journey.
The challenge with TF Mirroring (that goes beyond your Twin Flame), is that when the mirroring we receive starts to come from a much wider audience, we may start to feel attacked from all sides. This can then lead to feeling apprehensive and acting defensively (or even passively aggressively), which is a long way from our ideal ‘Unconditional Loving’ state as Twin Flames.
Being ‘awake enough’ to recognise this energy (or states of Being) is important. Because an ‘us vs them’ mentality (with anybody) is definitely not ‘Union’ energy, and will have a knock-on effect with regards to the relationships and energies you share with your Twin Flame.
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So, in today’s post (which has a bit of a coaching vibe), I want to give a practical example of how to deal with TF mirroring that goes beyond your Twin Flame.
I’m going to share with you a personal example of HOW I’ve dealt TF mirroring, that has come to me via many other (non-TF) people that divinely crossed my path, and WHAT I did to clear the energy.
Mirroring from all sides
So quickly, let’s review again – Why do we get mirroring from all sides?
Well, quite simply because we aren’t always with our Twin Flame 100% of the time. This journey often involves long stretches of separation (both time and space) to allow you both time to grow and evolve.
Other people also provide the Mirror, over and beyond your Twin Flame. Because quite seriously, if your Twin Flame provided all the lessons you needed to learn, you would be so traumatised by each other’s presence, that you would never unite. Let alone bring in your Twin Flame version of universal love/unconditional love, manifest on the Earth.
Karmics, and new and existing partners of our own, and our Twin Flame’s, play a great part in helping us grow. Now many of you know this, and it is easy to recognise or remember this may be happening with these individuals, so you can more readily notice what is happening.
But when other peoples beyond this group start mirroring to us, that feeling of ‘being attacked on all sides’ can pop up. Our mind/ego then starts to go crazy. The wondering, if ‘we are the only sane person around’, or is ‘everyone else is going crazy’.
It rather, an invitation from the Universe to see where you are at and what you need to learn.
Lovely synchronicities, like butterflies and angel numbers confirm that we are one the right track with the regards to our Soul Misson and Twin Flame Journey. Whereas, mirroring (TF Mirroring or otherwise), shows us where we still have work to do.
Using the Twin Flame’s Mirror to grow
So, how do we do use the Mirroring to grow, to clear our shadow wounds and bad patterns?
Well, take notice when multiple things come up (ie. repeating patterns and/or things reflecting a common theme).
My personal example:
For me, a while ago (without being too detailed), I got two emails from Customer Support Desks, who were supposed to be helping me. But in actuality, they frustrated me more, than helped. Both were ongoing issues (two plus weeks) that hadn’t been yet resolved, and I was very frustrated.
- The first Customer Support Desk wanted me to buy something, but wouldn’t answer my questions around the product. Questions I needed answered in order to decide whether to buy or not.
- The second Customer Support Desk was also ignoring my questions (as to why certain things hadn’t been fixed as promised), and was refusing to answer them, as well.
What I noticed:
Since I am ‘Awake’ enough to realise I had something to learn here, I asked myself. … “What did I notice?”
** My answer was…. “A common theme” **
Neither customer service person answered my questions. And both were being more unhelpful than helpful. There was very much an energy of ‘their way or the highway’.
Ah-ha!! I thought this is something I can work with.
This was the ENERGY of these things being mirrored to me. (Notice I said ‘ENERGY’. It is more about how we feel in/about the situation, that the actual physical emails received.)
I therefore, need to look at the ENERGY I WANT to mirror back to me… rather than the one I am currently experiencing. I also have to ask myself, ‘What ENERGY was I projecting towards them’?
How I wanted to react:
Now MY energy, at the time was a bit Indignant.
Like it or not, my EGO was riled up. Fuelled by the immediate ‘belief’ that I was 100% correct about the facts, and that they were wrong. My first incensed and frustrated thought was to email them back, and in extreme minute detail (Virgo rising) and explain to them how I was RIGHT, and they were WRONG.
I realized four important things however:
- That the energy I was giving off, wouldn’t be Unity Consciousness, or any version of ‘love’ energy.
- I could feel their ‘my way or the highway’ energy rising in me. (Definitely not the answer.)
- The old saying ‘you can be right or you can be happy, but not both’ occurred to me.
- I also knew, that whilst arguing with them might make my EGO feel temporarily better. Experience has taught me that arguing with ‘support people’ whose help you need, never ever, ever helps you get better service… meaning my problems wouldn’t be solved. *sigh*
Discovering My underlying FALSE beliefs (the underlying cause of my ‘strong’ emotions):
Now, I’ve just spoken about what I wanted to do, but what was the underlying thoughts? Because this was what I really needed to heal.
Here is what I was thinking about ‘those’ customer service people:
- That what they did wasn’t good enough.
- That they aren’t doing their job correctly.
Ah-ha !! This made more sense to me now.
“Not feeling good enough” is a theme in my life, related to my ‘Self Worth’ wound.
Do you have the same ‘wound’.?
Are my above thoughts (or similar), thoughts that you regularly have of yourself?
Now take these thoughts and look at yourself. Are they familiar? Have you been having these thoughts about yourself recently? (I’m going to say YES, if they are being mirrored to you!)
For me, YES, I was currently frustrated in my efforts in an area of my life, and feeling like I was failing and not good enough.
Decision Point: Choosing how to Respond (and not just React!):
Now, that you ‘know’ how and why you’ve been triggered by the mirroring. You can take the time to reflect and decide how you wish to calmly respond. Calmly ‘respond’ that is, versus an instant emotional, non-thinking’ reaction, from a place of hurt.
This whole thing (Twin Flame Mirroring going beyond the Twin Flame) isn’t personal. They are just mirroring Twin Flame Wounding to you. So, as they say, ‘Don’t shoot the Messenger’.
(The above point is important for all types of mirroring you experience, but even more so with your direct Twin Flame. Because, ‘hurt people’ ‘hurt’ people, and you don’t want to ‘act out’ in a bad way to the one person that you love the most… and who loves you the most! Your Twin Flame!)
Now, back to my Customer Service example.
Knowing that the Universe had just been mirroring to me (or reflecting back to me) how I am too self-critical, and not compassionate enough to myself – because I truly am ‘good enough’ despite any doubts I might have about this. This gives me a hint on how to respond.
What did I do? How did I respond?
Obviously, I’m not meant to argue with these people (it was nothing personal, the Universe was just guiding me through them), so I treated them with kindness and compassion, instead. Responding from my heart, with love and grounded compassion….and making sure I didn’t get ‘caught up’ in their ‘my way of the highway’ energy.
- Knowing that I can stand in the truth of own self-worth. I also knew that I could put my ‘wounded EGO aside’, and I don’t need to make another person feel less, to make myself to feel better – even though I knew I was correct in what I had been saying to them. I can simply take the HIGH (vibe/energy/ love) ROAD, instead.
Now that I had reached a this grounded (non-emotional/non-reactive) place, I could then take action.
First Support Person
I kindly emailed the first support person back (who was trying to sell me something but wasn’t giving me the information I needed to make a buying decision), and said “Thanks very much, but not at this time”.
This was Boundaries with compassion, that closed an interaction that would continue to annoy me, if I continued it.
(Luckily I did this, because I later found out the product they were trying to sell me was a scam!!!)
Second Support Person
With the second support person, they had failed to fix something that I wanted done, and was refusing to answer my questions on why their ‘fix’ wasn’t working.
So, from a very grounded place, I very nicely asked them to “please execute ‘xyz’”. (Without going back into the, indignant ‘You previously told me, you’d do XYZ, but you didn’t” experience that had already been through with them multiple times already.)
This new approach took the external charge and trigger out the situation for all concerned.
I wasn’t ‘reacting’ from a wounded (not feeling good enough) place, and I wasn’t inadvertently ‘shooting messenger’ who had brought me much needed Twin Flame Work, via their mirroring.
Checking in with how I felt now:
When we do any type of Twin Flame Healing work, it is important to see how you feel afterwards. Your latest feelings are a good indication of whether or not, you’ve correctly understood the ‘energy’ and the message.
How did I feel after I sent those messages back to the Customer Support people? Good! I felt my body release a big *sigh* and my shoulders relaxed a little.
This was a clear sign that I’d understood the mirroring trigger and addressed it.
As I acted more compassionately towards others, I’d also felt more compassionate to self (as within so without). Also, in a much more receptive and flow state – no longer resisting the journey, but following life wherever it leads me. A very important stage of BEING for a Twin Flame.
Healing comes in layers
Is healing a ‘one’ and ‘done’? No, not usually.
Healing comes in layers, as slowly over time, years of ‘trauma’ and ‘false beliefs’ are removed, or eventually simply fall away, as you truly embody more of ‘who you truly are’ – your Authentic, Soul Self.
Will this be the last time I get mirrored my ‘not good enough’ issues and self-worth issues? No probably not.
There are many, many years of having that wound untreated in me. And I am sure that it will get triggered, many more times yet.
But, the more I recognize when it happens, the ‘less intense’ the ‘Wound’. I am ‘triggered’ less, I guess you could say, and so the easier it becomes to compassionately respond with kindness rather than instantly from EGO.
Ultimately, one day you will NOTICE the triggers, but you won’t FEEL them. (ie engage with them). Which is an indication your wounds have healed in this area. Yay!
The Importance of Twin Flame Mirror work (both with your TF and others)
Why is healing our Twin Flame Triggers/Mirrorings important? (Did I just invent a new word! Ha ha)
- You feel much better when you aren’t triggered. Grounded, Happier, Peaceful. Loving. When you aren’t reacting in pain, or viewing life via ‘wounded’ glasses, Life can mirror back to you beautiful solutions, kindness and love, instead.
- You better reflect the Unconditional Love energy that Twin Flames are here to be on the world (You are stepping into Mission).
- Getting into Union with your Twin Flame (and staying there) takes time and effort. Both of you need to remember to stay out of your 3D (easily triggered) EGO, and remain in a state of love and acceptance.
Are you a bit tired of all this Twin Flame Healing and Twin Flame Shadow Work?
If so, I get it. I’ve been there too.
But if you can, I suggest you try and mentally reframe your experience….
Try to see all this TF mirroring work beyond your Twin Flame as practice for the thing you want most!!!
Yes, loving 3D physical union with your Twin Flame.
Its coming!
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This post has been a bit personal, but I hope that sharing how I (as a TF) personally ‘process’ and work through Twin Flame Mirroring going beyond the Twin Flame, will help you on your Twin Flame Love Journey.
Please keep an eye on my YouTube channel – https://www.youtube.com/@twinflamestages. I plan to do a video on Mirroring your Twin Flame’ in the future.
Much love,
Kristina x
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